Even the most talented kids with high intelligence, talents, set of skills and great learning abilities can fail if they don’t have a goal. If you point your child into the right direction and teach him about goal setting you can be sure that your child will move in the right direction and make his dreams come true. So the question is how to avoid a scenario where you watch your talented and intelligent teen fail because lack of motivation and lack of goals?
The first thing you need to do is communicate with your teen child. It is not as hard as you think, anyway, focus on defining a goal. Try to explain to them the importance of having a goal and the benefits of having a goal; explain to them how a goal can be a great motivation. Make them think about it and write answers to these questions:
- What I want out of my life?
- What is it that I enjoy doing the most?
- What makes me happy?
- What do I hold dear, what is of great value to me?
- Who is my role model and what are his or hers characteristics?
- If I could make a grand change in the world, what would I change?
- List of things I am good at.
- What keeps me going, what motivates me?
- Where do I see myself in 5 or 10 years?
- What places would I like to visit, where would I like to live?
These are very simple questions, but they can help your teenager identify his goal. This is a helpful exercise that can greatly help your child. Once your teen has a clue of what he wants and where he is going make sure you teach him some basic goal setting strategies.
Teach them how to define their goals, but make sure they understand that goals are realities, while dreams are not, there is a great difference. Explain to them how to research and brainstorm a goal. They have the benefit of using internet now, so it is much easier for them to investigate. One of the most important things is to teach them how to bridge the gaps and how to cross the roadblocks in their goal that may appear along the way.
The best place to start is setting up a goal with their school. Let them create a goal with their school year, a school program or sport program and how fast they can achieve their goal and with what effort, that will be a great test of their skills and goal setting ability. You can talk to them about how good it feels when the goal you set is completed, but they will not know it until they experience it themselves. So let them learn the goal setting techniques and let them set their first goal, once they finish their goal they will know how great of a motivation it can be.