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February 2011

Practical Parenting – Raising Teen Children in New York

by At-Risk.org Staff, on new, new york, parenting, parents, practical, raising, teen, teenagers, teens, troubled, york

Practical parenting takes time, and this will be your hardest task when raising children, as it is usually very hard to find time for those who live and work in New York. Still, parent must find a way to manage it, so they can teach their children good behavior. Well behaved child won’t become over night, and it takes a lot of modeling and learning.

The more time you devote to your children at an early age, the less time you will spend later in resolving eventual problems. During this time, you should develop communication skill, earn your child’s trust and develop a healthy relationship. The sooner you teach your children about positive values and consequence of choices, sooner you will be able to rely on their independence and trust them on making choices on their own. You are not going to be there for them forever.

Communication is not just talking, but taking some actions, too. This applies on punishment, for example. Save your words when child is not showing discipline. Instead of nagging all day about clothes your children leave everywhere around the house, simply don’t wash it until they realize that you are not their slave. They will get the picture very soon. Don’t overdo in taking actions, though. Do not hit your children, no matter what are the circumstances. Best is to let your child realize and understand mistake he made.

Many parents from New York make parenting contracts with their children. It is a formal agreement between a parent and their children, which can help in preventing many unwanted situations. A good parent tries to be prepared, so you can think about this as a written plan of what to do if… It also can determine what child is not to do, and what are the consequences breaking the agreement. You also have to be prepared to honor it.

Establishing family meetings can improve the way of family communication. A family should agree what is the best time for all to have them and how often they should take place. Off course, emergency family meetings are possible. This can be helpful if you feel that your child is growing apart from you and is spending less time with the rest of the family, which is often for teenagers. They are used to discus family problem, make some ground rules, but also to plan some fun time you will spend together.

While your children are still young, it is important to spend as much quality time together as you can. If you don’t have a back yard or you live in a heavy traffic area, take them to parks, zoos and anywhere outside where you can all feel relaxed and have fun.

Avoid sarcasm with your small children. New Yorkers are often sarcastic, but little kids are still unprepared for this kind of talk, and may get confused. You don’t want your child misunderstanding you.

 

At-Risk.org Staff