We all get angry, that is a part of life, but not all of us act on the angry impulse and start breaking things, screaming out of our lungs or even hurt anyone when we are angry. With years and experience it is easier to control our anger as we mature, but teens still don’t have that level of control. Unfortunately not all of us have the ability to control our anger, but we can easily learn to do so. If you have been is such situation where you barely controlled yourself and fear that the next time you may “lose it” here are some tips and exercises that will help you keep calm and control your anger.
The first thing you should try the next time you feel anger taking over and feel destructive is to remove yourself from the situation. You can try to do this the inner way by counting to 10 or 100, or if that doesn’t work for you then you should leave the room physically. See which one of these works best for you and the next time you find yourself in such a situation be sure to follow up on this method.
But walking out or suppressing your anger by counting to 10 will not keep that anger away, you have to let it out, and you can do so by working out, running, exercising. Go to the gym, enroll yourself in a yoga class, start running, play guitar, just do something that liberates you physically and mentally, something that helps you relax. After an hour a day of working out or doing any of the above mentioned things you will feel much better and you will be less likely to have anger bursts.
When we are angry we tend to go too far and say thing we never meant or do things we would never normally do, so don’t do that, do everything in your power not to let that happen. If you are stuck in a certain argument make sure that you present your side, present your case, don’t curse other, and don’t yell at them, just present your case as calmly as possible.
The most important thing that will help you deal with your anger is to follow the pattern of your anger, yes; our anger bursts have a pattern. Some things, or some people can set us off, we need to monitor those situations and make sure that we avoid the things that make us angry. We don’t need to avoid them if we are sure that we can stay calm now that we know the issue, we can try to overcome them by heading them head on, but don’t try to do that unless you are 100% positive that you can do it.
It may feel good to yell or throw things when you are angry, but it will not help or resolve the situation, in fact, it will only make things worse. The next time you start feeling angry use these exercises to help you deal with your anger.